Hi Alice! You do everything you can to help and support your mom. She probably
doesn't want to burden you or make you feel bad about what she is feeling and
going thru right now. Be there for her , no matter whether you and her are huggy
or not as we never know when we may not get to hug that person again! Love her
and support her.  I have been there and I don't regret a thing I done for my
mom! Help all you can and then go even farther to help! GOD BLESS you and her!

--- On Sat, 6/13/09, Alice <alice_peters2002@...> wrote:


From: Alice <alice_peters2002@...>
Subject: Daughtersofmoms withBREASTCANCER So glad I have found this site
To: daughtersofmomswithbreastcancer@yahoogroups.com
Date: Saturday, June 13, 2009, 9:31 PM








My name is Alice and my mother who is 69 years old, I am 50 years old, and she
just was diagnosed with Breast Cancer. She will be having her surgery
(lumpectomy) on Tuesday.

I haven't always been close to her emotionally, and she isn't very emotional
herself. We aren't huggy huggy and tear sharing type people.

I am struggling with typing right now... not sure what to say or how to say it.

I am afraid for her,
I want to be there for her...but don't know how much or in what way.

I have a job that I cannot get away from, and some of her treatment is out of
town.

I feel that she doesn't want me to help, but then she seems somewhat scattered
and asks for things from me then turns around and says oh her friend wants to
help her with that.

Does she want my help? I told her I would do all I can. I am trying so hard to
understand what she is going thru, and yet I feel selfish when my illnesses
interfere with my helping her.

My husband, isn't compassionate, and really thinks everyone should just over
their illnesses with as little fuss and muss as possible.

I don't have support,to help me be strong to support my mother who may or may
not want my support.

I am hoping that this is the support site that I need.

WHAT DO I DO? PLEASE HELP



















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