Hello my2zenuff

I am happy you found this support group. So sorry to hear about
her situation. It seems like she is doing the right thing by keeping
a positive attitude. I found this to be a very good way to fight
this disease. I am so happy she has you for support. That means a
lot and also helps her keep positive and loved. This is a very
important piece of her treatment. To be showered with support and
love.

Please feel free to sop by often and give us updates. This is your
place and you can write as much as you want. Do you think
maybe she can get other kind of assistance from the goverment?
I know here in there is an agency called elderink that helps people
find the resources. SHe might not be qualified for SS but maybe there
is an agency that helps with expenses such as rent, food pantry,
electricity etc.
I will pray that you find the resources you need to help you mom,

take care
Maria



--- In daughtersofmomswithbreastcancer@yahoogroups.com, "my2zenuff"
<my2zenuff@y...> wrote:
> Good morning. I am new to this site. My mom was diagnosed with
> breast cancer in 1999, had a masectomy. Then in 2002 was diagnosed
> again in the other breast. Had another masectomy and chemo. Then
> in October 2004 spot was found on her lung and lump in her throat.
> She went through two rounds of chemo. That just ended in May 2005.
> In July 2005 she was in the hospital for breathing and heart
> problems. These were caused by the chemo. She is going in on
> Friday to have a procedure done to take pictures of the inside of
> her heart. There was a lot of damage done, the doctor did tell her
> she will need stints put in. He did say it is managable and
> possible to correct. She will never have normal use of her heart,
> but she will have acceptable use, to where she can lead a fairly
> normal life. No work allowed.
>
> My mom has been so strong during all this. She has kept a positive
> attitude. The doctors told her that her attitude has made all the
> difference in her recovery. It is hard for her, though, she has
> always been really active and now she is being told to take it
> easy. The other problem, besides cancer, is she can't collect
> disability because she hadn't worked enough outside of the home in
> the past 10 years. My father is retired and lost most of his money
> that was in his 401k. My mom is 58 and is being told by Social
> Security she has to wait until she is 65 before she can collect any
> money. They said they can see she worked for 30+ years, but do to
> timing she is S.O.L. for now. She keeps trying to see the silver
> lining, but some days it looks a little tarnished.
>
> Sorry to babble, but sometimes I just need to talk to someone who
> understands. Thank you for reading this and it is great to have a
> site like this to go to when your feeling helpless.